Therapy: MeMe Roth
15/07/2009
Know what? I’m fat. I ain’t happy about it, but I’m fat. I gained 60 pounds in less than 3 years thanks to a pulmonary embolism, depression and fibromyalgia complicated by type 3 Ehlers Danlos and an inoperable hiatus hernia.
I am coming to terms with the possibility that my body may never feel *good* again. I’m almost ok with being in constant physical pain and discomfort because my stomach pokes up into my chest cavity, my body won’t process collagen correctly and my flesh feels like one giant, hypersensitive bruise. I don’t need others to make me feel like crap. I already feel like crap, thanks.
Believe me, I do not intend, nor have I ever intended to keep gaining weight or further compromise my health. Stop yourself right there if you think you have ‘advice’ for me. I know that advice can be well-meaning – but it’s usually ignorant and insensitive. Would you ask a cancer patient if they’ve tried chemo? Would you tell an asthmatic to, ‘just breathe already’? It’s pretty-much the same as asking me if I’ve tried ‘X’ ‘Y’ or ‘Z’ weight loss *solution*. If life were so simple – health workers would never fall ill. >.<
I. Am. Fat. I have been trying to get fit and lose weight for a while now. Most of the time I’m ok. Sometimes I’m not. This morning I was not ok. All night I had dreams of MeMe Roth’s recent ‘size 24 pants’ publicity stunt . I wear size 24. I have no choice. Its either that or go to work naked.
Meredith Clements (aka MeMe Roth) seeks the spotlight by shaming anyone who’s not a size zero. Her mission is to make an already uncomfortable personal situation unbearable. Her definition of ‘overweight’ is dangerously absurd. Her demands that women fit into their wedding dress for the rest of their lives is cruel, misogynist, heternormative, presumptuous and practically impossible.
Legitimate health professionals must begin speaking out against this attention-starved publicist professing to be an ‘obesity expert’.
In the mean time, I am lucky to have a supportive husband.
… and mad cathartic photoshop skillz!!
http://www.jennfarr.com/therapy/MeMe_Roth_Anorexia_for_Everyone.jpg
accidental altruist 
I am working on an article about MeMe and the decline of the FA Movement it should be on my blog. Please check it out and leave a comment. We are the New Fat Acceptance and we see MeMe as someone we disagree with but we do not bash her.I am Proud FA aka the Dean of Feederism and my partner Fat Bastard was a former Chapter chair for a major fat acceptance org.
I read the article you asked me to read.
“I, Proud FA, only pork fat girls”
“Your jealous fat girl routine is old and ugly”
“You fat girls in your misguided zeal and jealousy”
“little pea brains”
???
…. if yer the *New* Fat Acceptance Movement then I TOTALLY wanna stick with the old version.
kthksbai
Hey There, A.A.First off, you do have mad cathartic photoshop skillz. It's a damn funny cut of the photo…And I'm terribly sorry to hear about the health issues you've suffered. Sounds gawdawful…We may not agree on all things "obesity," but I did feel compelled, after reading your post, to mention that I've never pressured anyone to be anything other than a healthy weight–whatever weight that is for their frame. I grew up with obesity claiming the health and hopes of the people I love and respect the most. I wish you all the best in reclaiming your health after having such tough challenges thrown your way.If ever you're interested in fact-checking, you can reach me at your convenience. If you're generally interested in my work, pls checkwww.memeroth.com , http://www.memeroth.net or http://www.actionagainstobesity.com . Take care!M
Hi MeMe
“If ever you’re interested in fact-checking” ??
I hope you aren’t implying that I failed to fact-check *before* photoshopping and blogging. It took a lot of digging to find your real name. Along the way I learned more about your work than I care to know. 😦
For anyone else who might read this comment: I ask you to watch the original clip which upset me in the first place. Come to your own conclusions. If you feel comfortable sharing I would love to get your feedback on this:
http://jezebel.com/5313795/fox-anchor-cries-foul-on-fat+shamer
I went to Victoria Secret’s the other day to buy a bra. I went to try on a bra and the fitting rooms were labeled “Sexy”, “Bombshell”, “Knockout” and so forth. If I could describe myself in one word door labels it would be “Loving”, “Generous”, “Nurturing”, “Intelligent”. I felt none of those things applied to me because my weight is not “ideal” and I am made to know that on a constant basis.I have felt bad about the way I look all my life. I have always been told, “You’re such a beautiful girl if you would lose thirty pounds; wear some make-up; shave your legs and armpits…” Why can’t I be beautiful as I am? Who’s standard of beauty are we using? My insides are beautiful! My A1C (blood sugar indicator used to gauge diabetes) is fine, my triglycerides are fine, my blood pressure is fine, I ride my bike ten miles a day, eat only homemade/unprocessed foods… but my I have some serious lady lumps. I am an exceptionally good person and am healthy, isn’t that sexy? Can we celebrate this instead?